When Memories Become History

I seem to be writing about memory a lot lately.  Not sure why, but don’t worry:  I’ll get back to writing about books any day now.

This morning, however, I heard on the news that Senator Lautenberg of New Jersey has decided not to run for re-election.  Not surprising, perhaps, given that the senator is 89 years old, although I certainly hope that I’ll still be making major life decisions at that age.

No, what took me by surprise is that Lautenberg is the last member of the United States Senate to have served in World War II.  That is truly the end of an era.

I do not, I hasten to say, remember World War II myself.  It was over before I was born.  But when I was a girl it was an important, vivid, and recent memory for all the adults around me.  My father served in the Navy, my uncle in the Army.  My mother and her sisters and friends told stories of the war years, when they worked and lived as young women with new-found freedom.

When I was in high school World War II was still recent history, less than twenty years in the past.  Our teachers remembered it, and some of them had served.  Politicians certainly remembered it, and every candidate had his war stories.

A few years later I married Jack Hudson, who had joined the Army at 17 and spent the last few months of the war in the ball turret under the belly of a B17.  Jack had lots of war stories, too, most of them involving women.

So in many ways World War II was as much a part of my life as if I had lived through it myself.  And it has receded into history without my realizing it.

I think our last president to serve in World War II was the elder George Bush, who is about the same age as Senator Lautenberg.  Then we went through a few campaigns in which men were attacked for their service, or lack of it, in Viet Nam.  Now we have a Commander in Chief too young even for that war, and a generation of veterans with very different wartime experiences.

This is what happens as the years go by, of course, and I’m grateful for the years I’ve seen and the years still to come.  But it took that simple phrase in a radio news story, “last remaining World War II veteran in the Senate,” to bring home the fact that what was recent memory when I was a child, and so much a part of life for so many years, is decades-old history today.

Memories of a Holiday Wedding

It’s been forty-three years today since the Christmas vacation when I unexpectedly got married.  No, I didn’t accidentally marry the wrong man, or someone I didn’t know; I just wasn’t planning to get married for a while.  Jack and I had been together for over a year, but I was living in New Orleans, in my first year of grad school at Tulane, and he was finishing his senior year at Florida State in Tallahassee.

We decided to meet at my parents’ house in the suburbs of Miami for the holidays.  Arranging that was something of an adventure in itself, and we and our luggage arrived on at least three, possibly four, separate flights.  My parents had met Jack when they visited Tallahassee during the summer, and I’m sure they didn’t believe for a minute that we were living separately in the two sides of that duplex.  They liked Jack, but we hadn’t talked about marriage.  I was 22.  Jack was 42 (and divorced–three times).  My folks were 49.

When Jack and I mumbled that we thought we might get married the next summer, my mother protested–not the marriage, but the date.  If we didn’t get married over Christmas, she said, we’d do something weird and she wouldn’t be there.  I have no idea what she thought we would do, but she had a point–a few years later my younger brother was married by a Louisiana Justice of the Peace in the Food Stamp Office of the Lafayette Parish Courthouse, and she definitely wasn’t there.

So off we went to get a marriage license.  Jack was savvy enough to know he needed his (most recent) divorce papers, but the originals were filed in the Leon County Courthouse, and this was 1969.  If there were computers in the Dade County Courthouse, they weren’t talking to any filing system five hundred miles away.   Jack knew where his copies of the papers were (something of a Christmas miracle in itself, trust me), so he called a friend in Tallahassee, who burgled our duplex and overnighted the papers to Jack.

At the courthouse, we found ourselves in line behind a rather sad-looking prospective bride, maybe sixteen years old and very pregnant, with her fiancé and her parents.  When we got to the counter and I told the clerk the name of my pastor and the church where we were going to be married, she looked enormously relieved and said, “Then your parents know you’re doing this!”

We were married on December 29.  The church was still decorated for Christmas.  My parents’ back-fence neighbors owned a bakery and gave us a lovely wedding cake.  My dad loaned us the money to buy wedding rings, and my mother made me a dress, dark green with long sleeves and a short skirt.   Jack wore a suit, possibly the last one he ever owned.

Wedding Cake

Several of my college buddies were home for the holidays, and my long-time best friend was my maid of honor.

Ken, Chanda, Margaret & Margie

Jack found a friend in town to stand up for him–he had an aunt and uncle in Miami, but he was too shell-shocked to track them down until our next visit.  And maybe just a little self-conscious over marrying someone twenty years his junior.  My relatives up north spent months suspecting I was pregnant (never happened) and probably thinking this would never last.

But it did.  We were married until Jack passed away in 2002, together for 33 years.  Just goes to show you don’t need a wedding planner to make a successful marriage.  Just good intentions and a little Christmas magic.

Just Married!

Just Married!

Veteran’s Day

This morning Veteran’s Day sent me on a hunt for old photos.  I knew what I was looking for, but it wasn’t in my photo album, so I started pulling file boxes out of the cabinet of last resort.  Most of those boxes are filled with pictures of dirt, alternating with picture of rust, pictures of water, and pictures of people moving dirt around, all left from our days as consulting archeologists.

But one box holds a collection of snapshots of people and places, some that I can identify and some from so far back in Jack’s past that I have no idea what they represent.  In that box I found what I was looking for, in a small brown envelope, mailed from Baltimore in 1950 and addressed in my mother-in-law’s spidery handwriting to Jack Hudson, somewhere in Pennsylvania.  The postmark and address are so faded that I can’t tell more than that, but there were the snapshots I remembered, taken sometime in early 1945.

There are Jack and the crew of his B17, posing in front of the plane, maybe in Florida where they trained, maybe in England where they were based.  Jack is the short, cocky-looking guy in the back row.  The youngest and smallest man in the crew, Jack was the ball turret gunner, an especially dangerous position because the ball turret, located as it was under the plane, could be scraped off, gunner included, in a bad landing.  When Jack took me to see the B17 at the Lone Star Flight Museum in Galveston, I was astonished:  the Flying Fortress of its day is a very small plane by modern standards, and the ball turret is tiny and nearly inaccessible.

Jack joined the Army Air Corps in 1944.  He was seventeen, and he hadn’t finished his senior year at the military academy he attended, so his mother had to sign his enlistment papers, but that was common enough at the time.  (Some years later, all the boys from Jack’s class who had left to join the military were awarded their diplomas.)  By the time he got to England, the war was nearly over, but he did fly on a few missions over Germany before it ended.  In the envelope with the crew photo were several shots taken on one of those raids.

After the war, Jack stayed with the Army rather than join the newly formed Air Force.  He went to Officers Candidate School at Fort Benning and served in the infantry during the Korean War, although he never made it to Korea.  The Army lost track of his paperwork in Japan, and he spent some time, so he told me decades later, hanging out with a lovely female pearl diver there, until someone finally straightened out his orders and sent him back to the states.  (There was some threat of discipline, I understand, until Jack pointed out that he wasn’t the one who messed up the paperwork, and in fact had reported in every week like clockwork asking for his orders.)

Jack stayed in the reserves for years after he left active duty, serving as an administrative officer in a M.A.S.H. unit, helping set up a military museum in New Orleans, cooking cajun food and watching movies with a unit in Lafayette.  When the first Iraq invasion began, he would have cheerfully gone to help–he always kept his name on the list of the “ready reserves”–but by then he was too old to be called back.

He told funny stories about his service, and never complained.  It was all part of the job, he said, even that atomic bomb test he’d witnessed out in the desert.  And what had he learned from it all?  Never pass a chance to eat, sleep, or go to the bathroom (that last not his exact words).  Hey, that’s pretty good advice for anyone.

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